Life’s challenges force us to harden up. Relationships, work, children, family and finances all combine to put us under a lot of pressure and the way we are expected to deal with these is to develop resilience and to some extent indifference. We are required to be tough.
To teach our kids to be tough and with each blow life delivers to knock us down, we need to get up, dust ourselves off and pick up where we left off. The more times we start again, the colder and more jaded we become.
Lemon Drizzle cake
If a team of people in any group are going to work well together, it is important to listen to one another’s ideas. Too often in a business setting, you have a group of people simply waiting for their turn to speak, not paying one iota of attention to the persons on their left or right. So it is a good teamwork skill to have the ability to listen.
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Ultimate chocolate cake
This isn’t saying abandon your ego all together, because that isn’t healthy. But leaving your ego at the door temporarily is a very important team work skill. The reason this is so essential is because there is always someone better than you at something, no matter how brilliant you are.
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Chilli con carne recipe
By critique, I mean constructive criticism. Be able to give others constructive criticism and be able to listen to others critique your ideas and work. There shouldn’t be any offense taken to constructive criticism. You all want to succeed, and this is a vital step in doing so.
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Yummy scrummy carrot cake
When I was in military boot-camp, there were a number of chores we had to have done by the end of the day. Clothes folded, wall lockers arranged, floors spotless, boots nice and shiny, weapons cleaned, loose strings clipped off of our uniforms. We quickly discovered that we were all good at specific tasks. So, what we did was delegate.
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Best ever chocolate brownies recipe
The truth of the matter is that not everyone is going to like each other all the time. There might even be people in your group that you really can’t stand. Guess what? That doesn’t matter. You are there to conjure up ideas and complete tasks. Show equal respect to each and every person, and work to your best ability.
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Spiced carrot & lentil soup
This is simple.If one of your teammates does not understand an idea, discussion, or task that is being completed, take the necessary time to explain it to them and work with them. There are no weak links when everyone helps one another. Some take longer to learn than others, but that doesn’t mean that they are of less intelligence. In fact, it has been shown that some slow learners are much better at specific skills once they learn them.
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Chicken & chorizo jambalaya
If someone brings up a topic of discussion and a solution to this topic, question them. Respectfully question, don’t badger. Rather, ask them how it will work, why it will work over the long-run, and how everyone else can implement the idea.
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Summer-in-winter chicken
Everyone has to pitch in and carry their own weight.Quite frankly, some folks prefer to work alone rather than in a team environment. They’re introverted, shy, nervous, or have bad anxiety. It is important to bring these people out of their shells. Oftentimes the quietest person in the room is the most reflective and does the most in-depth thinking.
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Spicy root & lentil casserole
Rational group debate is very important. There can’t be any biases, and it is even better if there are data to back each argument. But these ideas have to be fact-based. If you are proven wrong, that’s a good thing as it gives you new ideas and a new foundation on which to build. Ideas built on falsities are the equivalent to a house of cards waiting to get blown over.
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Mustard-stuffed chicken
When I was in military boot camp, we spent 90% of the time stressed and being chewed out by our training instructors. But, when it came to the classroom and learning, that could not have been any farther from the truth. The instructors were charming, funny, and would even gently wake us up when we nodded off from exhaustion.
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To teach our kids to be tough and with each blow life delivers to knock us down, we need to get up, dust ourselves off and pick up where we left off. The more times we start again, the colder and more jaded we become.
What you truly desire. Imagine what you could accomplish
Some people believe that showing tough love is an important way to ensure that their children are able to take care of themselves in the future. If you were the recipient of this approach on a regular basis, you might even believe that this has had a positive impact on your life.
Perhaps what’s needed is a shift in attitude. To become stronger and resistant to the tribulations of life, maybe the answer is that we need to become softer not tougher. Maybe what the world needs is more nurture.